Addendum re: control

In my post about the 12 steps and specifically step one, I stated that we have no control over anything but what's between our ears. A friend of mine corrected me on that one: sometimes we don't even have control over that. You know what I'm talking about -- those thoughts that tell us we're lazy, stupid, worthless, and incompetent and can back this up with rational proof such as the fact there is a hole in the toe of our sock or our child has run out of clean underwear. I stand corrected. Sometimes we don't have control over anything at all.